grow through what you go through

just a place to talk about life, books, relationships, grieving and healing

  • oh hey, fancy meeting you here

    ok so let me just preface this post with the fact that I am VERY new to this whole blogging/talking about life thing. but if you’re reading this, whether you’re genuinely interested or I forced you to for moral support, I should maybe introduce myself? my name is allison, I’m a registered nurse from Buffalo, Continue readin

  • I needed to lose you to love me (healed version)

    I know i’ve talked about my love for kelsea ballerini before. and if not, well I love her. that’s all there is to it. in 2023, kelsea ballerini released an EP called “Rolling Up the Welcome Mat”. initially, it was 6 songs that talked about her divorce, and what her relationship was like leading up Continue readin

  • the end of an era

    much like taylor swift, i’ve been on my own era(s) tour for the last couple of years that came to a close (officially) the other day. for anyone who doesn’t know, my girlfriend and I moved into our first house together a couple of weeks ago. I know it might not seem like a huge Continue readin

  • 5 months and 37 books later

    wow, it’s been 4 months since my last blog post. life kind of got away from me. in may, softball season started; which in case you didn’t know, is my favorite time of the year. softball has been a HUGE part of my life since I could walk. let me paint the picture for you. Continue readin

  • same time, same place, one year later

    one year ago, on june 25th at 10:15PM, I decided to start this little blog of mine. I was laying in my bed, my mind racing with a million thoughts all going a mile a minute (so no different than literally any other day), and I texted some of my friends to tell them about Continue readin

  • don’t let the pigeon drive the bus

    I already know that this post is going to be all over the place, it’s been awhile, so just bear with me. or stop reading, it’s up to you. I’ve been kind of in a creative drought I guess you could say? its not that I haven’t been inspired to write, its more like the Continue readin

  • oh, atlanta

    a little over a month ago I was in atlanta, georgia for my first EVER national drag pageant. before you ask, I was NOT the contestant; however, my incredibly talented girlfriend was. for those of you who don’t know, my girlfriend is a very well known drag king in the Buffalo, NY area. when we Continue readin

  • the truth hurts, but a lies worse

    i’ve contemplated sharing this (I feel like I’ve been starting a lot of posts like this) because it’s one thing to be vulnerable about the stuff you’ve been through. the highs the lows. but it’s a totally different thing to be vulnerable about your flaws. the things you don’t want anyone to know. but sometimes, Continue readin

  • after all this time?

    if you’ve been following along recently, you know that I recently came out. and if you haven’t been, welp, cats outta the bag! but anyways, i’ve been saying since then that there would be more to come about this new relationship i’m in. I don’t typically write in detail about my relationships, I tend to Continue readin

  • year in review

    its. been. a. year. to say the least. in the spirit of spotify wrapped and your social media “year in review”, I started thinking about the last year of my life. before I go any further, I want to be clear: some of these things may not seem like a lot to you, but given Continue readin

  • hi. my names allison, and it’s nice to meet you. (again).

    this post has been kind of a long time coming. whether I knew it or not. it’s time to be honest with myself, and all of you. so here goes nothing. as many of you probably know, I was engaged to a man. and that engagement was called off, our house was sold, and we Continue readin